It’s Meet a Mom Monday and you have to meet Mariah Batin! This local Mom of two, Jalen (2.5 years) and Jru (pronounced Drew, 1 year) who goes by her middle name Bella, is putting her stamp on Momprenuership if we’ve ever seen it! She is a wife, working mom, mom-blogger, student, intern AND owner/operator of @thriftingwithjbella, a retro handmade accessory shop for kids and adults. Her Instagram thread @twokids.nonap had us laughing out loud…and relating!! When we found out she was a Morongo Basin local, we had to interview her. And lucky us, not only can you buy her accessories online, they are available locally @desert_nest_co, the CUTEST new family-owned boutique in Yucca Valley, where she actually works too… How does she do it?!!
Where are you from originally and what brought you to the Morongo Basin?
I am from Los Angeles, after graduating college and traveling for a year straight, I moved to 29 Palms to help my step-sister raise her newborn son while her infantry Marine husband was abroad. Now we reside in Yucca Valley.
What is your favorite thing about living in Yucca Valley and why did you decide to raise your own family here?
My favorite thing about living in Yucca is being around so many of my husband’s family members, no traffic and a care-free quiet atmosphere! A 360 change from Los Angeles. Our favorite local family activities are visiting the JT National Park and the dog park in Yucca!
Are you involved in a business venture, a local organization, a creative endeavor, or in the corporate world? Please share!
I work for Yucca Family Medical Care in the referrals department, I am also a Graduate student @ CBU and have recently started working as a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern, I will be completing my Masters degree this upcoming Spring. In my spare time I run a retro accessory shop “Thrifting With J. Bella” it is an online shop and also available in Yucca Valley at Desert Nest Co. I also am a social media influencer/blogger (@twokids.nonap) and work with many well know companies.
Tell us about what you do and why you are passionate about it…
Since I was a child I knew I wanted to help people get out of situations they did not want to be in. I myself had a troubled upbringing therefore my goal in life was to find a career that would assist others in finding the happiness that I’ve found with my husband and brats, I mean my sweet children 🙂 … becoming a therapist is my route to help make a difference, and I hope to begin my career in the Morongo Basin community ultimately.
How do you balance what you do for a living and being an Amazing Mom?
I have no idea how I balance, I just do it. I have Mom Guilt. I do. When I am doing homework or making jewelry or getting ready for work and my kids are crawling all over me calling for me and crying when I can’t pick them up, it truly breaks me down. But I have my ambition, that ambition helped me get to where I am, and I will always look towards the bigger picture. That picture is to set a foundation that will allow my children to have the best version of life possible with infinite opportunities. I also hope they look at me, and their Father and they realize the sacrifices we make are for THEM and also for US. Because self-happiness is just as important. A happy Mother makes a happy family. When I am whole and complete, we can all be. My daughter will see her Mother as a woman who never stops! And my son will look for a woman who is eager and ambitious to better herself. That is what I want for them. Making the best of the small time we have on this earth is a masterpiece that should be cherished and worked on.
What’s been your proudest “Mommy Moment” so far?
My proudest moment isn’t a moment at all. It’s everyday. Just seeing my babies smile, giggle, and run to me with laughs and “ouchies.” They believe I am the greatest person in the world, and it makes me believe it to. What makes me proud is seeing in myself what they see in me!
What’s something people might be surprised to learn about you?
Most people don’t know I balance 3 jobs, graduate school & a small shop. I don’t really advertise that I’m a UCMerced graduate and that I completed 1 year of AmeriCorps which is like the domestic version of the PeaceCorps. I guess the only thing I consider an accomplishment these days is that I’ve carried 2 babies in 3 years. My kids have become my identity! I’m okay with it, but I am learning to balance being a proud Mom and a successful business woman!
Funniest shortcut/routine for helping you through parenthood?
Well….. I give myself pep talks a lot lol, when I’m about to loose my mind. I go into the bathroom and tell myself all sorts of positive affirmations like. Girl….. don’t let these kids take you down, they just want your life insurance money. Lol
What has been the most difficult age with your children to date? What helped you overcome the challenges at that time?
My son has been a challenge since gestation. I’ve know since I was 19 weeks pregnancy what he would have medical issues. He was born with a rare condition (1 in a million) he only has 1 functioning kidney. Luckily you only need one kidney so he has and will always have a normal carefree life, but the first 10 years of monitoring the healthy kidney is intense and causing me severe anxiety and guilt. His condition I had no control over and have been told it’s not my fault, but I’m his mother so of course I will always feel responsible. Because of this, I’ve always been extremely over-protective. Now I have a wild 2.5 year old who only hears “cookie” and treats his new sister like she’s the neighbor. BUT things are getting easier and my children have beautiful personalities, ALWAYS happy. Well… except my daughter Bella.. we call her Bella Bee because she’s unfriendly to just about everyone lol and minds her own business. But overall I haven’t experienced any challenges that differ from any other mother in the “2 under 2” world! Everyday is hectic, everyday is tiring but everyday is an absolute blessing to share life with these little babes.
What is one piece of advice you would pass along to other Moms?
One thing I’ve learned dealing with my son is the patience that you think you don’t have… you have it. It’s there deep down. You just have to take care of yourself and you will be able to handle chaotic situations differently. Next time I go in the kitchen and the floor is covered in syrup instead of screaming at my kids covered in syrup. I’m going to laugh! Laugh at the memory they just made, I’m taking my Instagram photo and then… I’m throwing them in the tub. Because one day…. one day they will be gone, they won’t be eating my over-cooked pancakes. So I have to cherish chaos because it’s a lot better than absence.
G-E-L-A-T-O !! Any time of the day please!